Mike Valentino Rises From the Ashes Like a Queer Phoenix

Remember Mike Valentino, that hot North Carolina blogger who quickly became my BFF after we sexually harassed each other online while you, dear readers, witnessed the virtual man-on-man action? (You can trace the evolution of our relationship here.)

Well, a few months ago, he stopped writing, yanked his genuinely funny and smart blog from public view, pretty much dropped the off the face of the earth, and quit responding to my naked-picture texts. (Yes, I have his number.)

After some people, including his wife, beat some sense into him, he has launched a new blog under his real name, Michael DeAntonio, and it's off to a great start. (He has so far objectified Iranian women and weighed in on Michael Jackson.)

I like to think that I had everything to do with it. After all, he started posting again shortly after I alerted him to this terrific quote from choreographer Martha Graham:

There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and, because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours, clearly and directly, to keep the channel open. You do not even have to believe in yourself or your work. You have to keep yourself open and aware to the urges that motivate you. Keep the channel open.... No artist is pleased. [There is] no satisfaction whatever at any time. There is only a queer divine dissatisfaction, a blessed unrest that keeps us marching and makes us more alive than the others.

Basically, what she's saying to all artists is: If you are an artist, you must create art. It's not fucking up to you to decide, bitches!

Visit Mike DeAntonio's new blog, Mike the Bull.


  1. Yay your BFF is back. Hope you post some of those crazy conversations you used to have.

  2. Prince, that's an awesome quote. Thanks for including it in the post.

  3. Crisco???? Oh.god.no.

  4. I picture a queer phoenix not necessarily rising from the ashes but wiggling.

  5. Yes, I think Martha Graham was definitely talking about blogging.

    But seriously, I love that quote and hadn't read it before. I like the notion that we should make art because we're artists, not because someone has deemed us great artists. It's liberating. No one ever tells a nurse, "How dare you be a nurse if you're not the best nurse in the world!"